Time For Honest Conversations Among Utah Men

According to this study Utah men are less isolated than the national average, yet more convinced they’re not allowed to talk about what’s actually going on inside their heads.

Utah, Maybe We Need to Expand the Emotional Vocabulary Beyond “Fine”

In Utah we are really good at connecting with block parties, social groups, and neighbors who show up with a plate of cookies before you even know you’re sad. And sure, the numbers look good: only 15% of Utah men say they don’t have anyone to talk to about their mental health, compared to 30% nationally.

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But here’s the plot twist: "66% of Utah men still believe it’s less acceptable for men to talk about mental health than women", even though most men in the nation think it’s totally fine.

Navigating Conversations: From 'Good' to Authentic Dialogue

When was the last time you were asked by a guy in Utah how things are doing and you didn't hear yourself offering the one answer-all catching "good how are you?", type of response? If you think I am being overdramatic, take a minute to imagine the reaction you would get if you launched into a real answer. You know something as simple as, "I don't feel so great, I stubbed my toe and it is throbbing. I mean I think I might lose the toe."

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You can feel the advice coming, right?. Put your leg up, pierce the nailbed with a hot pin, watch where you walk etc. You can imagine the full buffet of solutions you didn’t ask for. It's like when you say, “I’m struggling,” Utah responds, “Have you tried… not doing that?”

The Need for Empathy: Listening Over Fixing

That’s the Utah problem. We’re so eager to help that we forget to *hear*. We want men to be strong, but we also want them to be open — as long as it’s tidy, brief, and ends with “but I’m fine now.”

Maybe it’s time to retire “fine.”
Maybe it’s time to let men be human.
Maybe it’s time to listen instead of troubleshoot.

Because if Utah is going to be the community‑driven state we claim to be, we’ve got to make room for conversations that aren’t comfortable — but are real.